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Hardship doesn\u2019t have to mean hard.
\nAnd lonely doesn\u2019t have to mean alone.<\/h2>\n

Because I believe this with my whole heart, I’m here to help you with your pain, your joy, your concerns, your changes\u2014anything<\/em> you’re wrestling with. (I’m especially good at working with: Grief<\/a>, Life Transition<\/a>, Trauma<\/a>, Therapy for Therapists<\/a>, Therapy for Highly Sensitive \/ Intuitive People<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

We need<\/em> one another.<\/p>\n

Think that\u2019s just some therapist feel good talk?<\/p>\n

I promise you, it\u2019s not.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because this bewitchingly beautiful, crazy, messy, erratic, unpredictable, volatile, capricious thing called life, in all its glory, can also mean excruciating, soul-shattering PAIN. (Or even deadened, unfulfilled numbness.)<\/p>\n

:: That moment when you got the call\u2026<\/strong>
\n…and all you could do was scream blind rage while the tears engulfed other layers of tears, and you didn\u2019t even rock back and forth like they do in the movies because you were so stunned with shock, dread, and anger that all you could do was stay there, unblinking, for hours on end, muzzled by the distinct feeling of being entirely out of control\u2026 of everything<\/em>.<\/p>\n

:: Years may have passed…<\/strong>
\n…rendering you into a state of numb nothingness\u2014one where time stops ticking, and so does your enthusiasm, lust and earnestness for living. Maybe you have trouble coping with the daily stresses and strains of living even though you\u2019re getting by. Maybe you have difficulty managing your emotions. (Random flashes of anger, fear, or shame sound familiar?) Maybe you have glitches in memory, or even in the way you act around other people. The pain you experienced\u2014whether loss, trauma, or something else, like a big change that\u2019s been tough to handle\u2014has worn you down, physically, mentally, emotionally\u2014until you feel like a hollow shell of who you know you could be.<\/p>\n

:: This phase you\u2019re going through\u2014happy or<\/em><\/span> sad\u2014where everything feels upended\u2026<\/strong>
\n…including your life, your plans, your dreams, and your future\u2014and, instead, has left you whirling with self-doubt. Maybe you\u2019re getting married or divorced, having a baby, trying to find a fulfilling career, facing an empty nest, or retiring. Or maybe you\u2019re going through something more abstract\u2014like seeking purpose, fulfilling potential, exploring a calling, or changing spiritually.<\/p>\n

In so many ways, change changes you.<\/h2>\n

And change\u2014good or<\/em> bad\u2014is rarely easy.<\/p>\n

It changes your feelings. It changes your perspectives. And it changes the way you interact with the world. Forever<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m here to help that change become one that actually benefits you.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Because right now, you\u2019re certainly surviving. But not necessarily thriving<\/em>. And you deserve your time in the sun.<\/h2>\n

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Maybe you\u2019re working yourself to the bone, never sitting still. Or maybe it\u2019s just the opposite, and you\u2019re having a hard time getting going at all. Perhaps you\u2019re plagued by an underlying sense of dissatisfaction or restlessness or longing for more, even though things in life are going \u201cwell.\u201d<\/p>\n

Maybe you feel like you should \u201cbe over it.\u201d Maybe you\u2019ve been told so, too. Maybe you feel like you just need to suck it up, move on, and accept things the way they are. So you\u2019ve been putting on the \u201cI\u2019m great, thanks!\u201d face. (You know the one. And it\u2019s wearing thin.)<\/p>\n

But no matter how hard you try, no matter how much you pretend, you still feel sort of like a fraud. Alone. Isolated. Misunderstood. Lonely. And still with so much (damn) hurt, even if it\u2019s neatly buried way<\/em> beneath the surface.<\/h2>\n

But you haven\u2019t been able to do anything about it. You\u2019ve always been so strong. So self-reliant. Independent. Competent. These feelings you\u2019re having\u2014they make you feel like a weakling. Like a crybaby. Overwhelmed. Or maybe even pathetic.<\/p>\n

And you can\u2019t stand to have the world see that side of you\u2026 Maybe you even hide it from yourself.<\/p>\n

But you need to know a few truths\u2014things I believe in with all my heart<\/em>.<\/strong> Things that I want for you. Things that I know will help. Things I can help you to trust in.<\/h2>\n