Who is Candyce?


 
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I am a clinician, supervisor, trainer, and writer. And I am someone who has made my way through darkness and come out on the other side.

That means the professional knowledge I bring to you is guided by both rigorous study and real life experience. Because when your teacher has both? Your whole self gets to learn.

When I was 30 years old, everything suddenly fell apart. One minute I was a new mom creating a nest with my husband and my baby boy. The next minute I was a widowed single parent, suddenly nesting instead in my therapist’s office. Crawling through darkness and making my way through unexpected and devastating tragedy.

During those years of grief and growth, I was lucky: I found a therapist who was unafraid to walk through the darkness with me. All the way. Without trying to fix me or take my pain away. No matter how long it took. No matter how hard it was. So my pain had time to invite me to grow. To eventually transform my life.

During my years of grief and growth, I also learned that my therapy experience was unique. American culture doesn’t like pain. Doesn’t like death. Doesn’t like healing that takes time. Lots and lots of people in lots and lots of situations wanted me to “get over it,” to “look for the silver lining,” to essentially stop hurting so much and get back to my old self.

And believe me, there’s a ton of therapy out there that subscribes to this pathologizing “fix-it-quick-and-avoid-the-darkness” attitude.

If my therapist and I had listened to that attitude, and had tried to prod me to fix my pain and get back to being my old self, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to transform into who I am now, years later.

Who I am now is someone who knows first-hand that fearless therapy can help a life crack open and shine. I am someone who is intensely determined to make sure that there is more great therapy in the world, so that all people who hurt can have a companion to accompany them on their dark and rocky paths toward growth. Without being pathologized or asked to skip over their pain. I am someone who has taken all that I learned from my own travels through therapy, and used it to fuel my enthusiasm for mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

 

I’m so passionate about good therapy and therefore about good therapist training that I continually strive to expand and sharpen my skills—personally and professionally. That means you’ll always get my newest, my most trusted, and my best.

 

I have actively and intentionally lived and studied psychological and spiritual perspectives of suffering and transformation for more than 20 years. I have decades of study and practice under my belt, along with life experience and years of my own therapy. Meaning that as a trainer I can clearly explain the underpinnings and in-depth applications of the theories I’m teaching, even as I model acceptance, warmth, compassion, fearlessness, challenge, and engagement with you as I teach.

I read, attend workshops, teach courses, lead study groups, give presentations, write, and participate in my own personal growth on a regular basis. I’m a geek about this stuff. I explore everything from time-honored wisdom traditions to the latest and greatest neuroscience research, distilling and applying the information so I can deliver the best to you.

Specifically, I continually broaden my understanding of all aspects of attachment-based, experiential, emotion-focused, depth-oriented, and body-based therapies by studying:

(All this love of darkness and geekiness, yet ya know what? I’m also a regular person with a great sense of humor, a family life, and a love of food, swimming in cold water, and Elliptigo-riding!)

A few other things you should know about the expertise I bring to my teaching:

My years of extensive experience working and teaching from a depth-psychological, attachment-based, experiential perspective in the areas of trauma, grief, life transition, depression, and sensitivity has enabled me to deliver the highest level of support for my clients, as well as to provide effective training and study for experienced and new therapists, and counseling interns.

 

Every single day, I’m humbled, honored, and profoundly moved by having the opportunity to help therapists accompany all kinds of people through pain and change, all while fostering growth, healing, and authentic self-understanding.

 

Truth be told, these qualifications are all fine and dandy, but the bottom line is that I’m constantly striving to provide a safe and inviting atmosphere for your learning. I’m open, non-defensive, and emotionally-engaged, and I welcome your curiosity, questions, experience, and appetite for growth.

I believe that good teaching is:

warm,

authentic,

attuned to you and your needs in the moment.

I believe that good teaching invites you to be all of who you are as a therapist so that you can bring all of who you are to your clients.

Because when we come together as our truest, most connected selves? We’re able to grow and develop better than ever before, sculpting our true selves to help our clients from that beautiful place of authenticity, security, and confidence.

 

The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.                — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross